If Someone You Know

Just thinking about talking to someone about a gambling problem can be scary, but knowing how to start can help you find the courage to have the conversation. First choose a comfortable place where you feel safe and won’t be interrupted. Then keep it simple and straight forward…

1. Tell the person you care about her and you’re concerned about how she is acting.
   
   
2. Tell the person exactly what he’s done that concerns you.
   
   
3. Tell the person how her behavior is affecting other people – be specific.
   
   
4. Be clear about what you expect from him (“I want you to talk to someone about your gambling.”) and what he can expect from you (“I won’t cover for you anymore”).
   
   
5. After you've told the person what you've seen and how you feel, allow him to respond. Listen with a non-judgmental attitude.
   
   
6. Let the person know you are willing to help, but don't try to counsel him yourself.
   
   
7. Give the person information, not advice.
   
   
8. Encourage her to call the help line.

When Their Problem is Your Problem
If someone you are close to has a gambling problem, it is important for you to:

1. Take care of yourself.
2. Stay in touch with your feelings.
3. Realize that you are not responsible for the gambler's behavior.

As hard as it is, you need to take steps to protect your financial resources and your health. Even if your loved one is not ready or willing to get help, you may want to call the Problem Gambling Help Line – 1-877-MY-LIMIT - or talk to a counselor yourself.